As I continue to wrestle with sleep, dreams are on my mind. The fact that I don’t have enough of them lately attests to a sleep disturbance. Or maybe not. There are many who can’t remember dreams. Their stories vanish not long after they arise. I’m like that, too, so I have to write them down if I want to remember them.
Upon reading Peter M Rosenberg‘s post, A Dream Goes On Forever, I was reminded of one client who came to me during my counseling days with an ongoing fear. She was afraid to go to sleep, as every night she dreamt of a spider crawling on her. She was afraid of being bitten by that spider. I suggested she had more power than she thought to change the outcome, that she could control the ending. I suggested when the spider came, she could take a slipper and hit it, in her dream that is. Now, I know that this isn’t Buddhist thinking and there is more to our dreams than just dealing with the obvious, but the bottom line was this woman was feeling out of control. And to be given the idea that she could do something about a terrible situation gave her hope.
When she came back the following week, she told me she had stopped having the nightmares about the spider. I asked her if she had followed my suggestion. She said, “What I did was put a slipper under my bed.” She had taken what I said and made it her own. She found her power in her dreams, and this small change gave her strength to tackle others in her life.
Some people soar over their problems in their dreams. They find power through flying over cities, oceans and countryside. I’ve flown, only once. It was while I was having a Swedish massage at a retreat on Saltspring Island in British Columbia. I went into this vivid daydream, in which I dreamt I flew over my old elementary school where I’d experienced some prejudice and harsh treatment from my classroom teacher. Somehow, my flying act gave me the power to let go of an old hurt that had haunted me for years.
Dreams are magical and mysterious. Like the one I tried to make sense of in my post Dreams That Work Overtime. Do you have mysteries to share? Have you found your own power while dreaming? Has anything surprised you about this inner world we go to?
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