{"id":908,"date":"2012-04-01T07:13:46","date_gmt":"2012-04-01T14:13:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dianastevan.com\/?p=908"},"modified":"2012-04-01T17:06:57","modified_gmt":"2012-04-02T00:06:57","slug":"not-your-typical-fairy-tale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dianastevan.com\/uk\/2012\/writing\/not-your-typical-fairy-tale\/","title":{"rendered":"Not Your Typical Fairy Tale"},"content":{"rendered":"

Growing up reading fairy tales and seeing films with a happy Hollywood ending, \"\"<\/a>I expected more or less the same kind of ending \u00a0when I got married. I soon found out it took more than love to keep a relationship working. Unlike fairy tales, couples in love don\u2019t always live happily ever after. It takes work and the willingness to listen and the willingness to accommodate one another to get through the rough spots. No one prepares you for that.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it was so refreshing to see the film The Last Kiss<\/a><\/em>, a story about a number of couples, young and old, who find a number of surprises during their couple journeys, –ones they hadn’t expected. This film is an honest portrayal of what it takes to make a relationship work. It shows not only what happens when one partner in a relationship screws up but what needs to happen to get that relationship back on track. It isn’t about ditching and running when the love sours. When one breaks the vows, it takes a lot of forgiveness to keep going together. The Last Kiss <\/em>is remarkable in showing the truth of many relationships. Oscar winning screenwriter, Paul Haggis<\/a>, did a wonderful job adapting the screenplay from the\u00a0 2001 Italian film L’ultimo bacio<\/a>.<\/p>\n

When couples decide to split without giving their relationships one more chance, it gives the old expression throwing out the baby with the bath water<\/a> new meaning.<\/p>\n

With divorces so high, with more and more young men and women choosing to live singly, with birth rates down, I wonder what you think about marriage? What do you think it takes to make a marriage work?\u00a0 Or is the prospect of commitment scarier than ever?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Growing up reading fairy tales and seeing films with a happy Hollywood ending, I expected more or less the same kind of ending \u00a0when I got married. 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